OK thanks for all the feedback. Last week was by far the most provocative post I’ve ever written in terms of activity. Lots of comments and emails back and opinions. More than I expected. I love it. Keep it coming.
This past May one of my favorite fellas Landon was staying with me. He was taking a May term class but his lease didn’t start till June 1. So one night we were hanging out and the 1st episode of The Bachelorette came on. I said “you can change it if you want” and he said “you can change it if you want” but neither of us changed it. Not unlike this Chris Farley situation. Click the pic and check it at 28 seconds.
This was me and Landon
We watched that first episode and might or might not have watched the next 3. Maybe even DVR’ed them. Luckily for us we went away to the Middle east for a while and it broke our habit.
After some embarassing reflection, here are:
5 things wrong with the Bachelor/Bachelorette:
- It disrespects women and undermines their dignity. 28 women trying to “win” the affection of one man.
- People are making their most important earthly relationship decision under false pretenses, under unsustainable ideals. Nothing will be as good or as exciting or as adventuresome ever again. Unless you are a billionaire. a. How much can you get to know someone when every meal, every expense, every worldly worry (except for competition) is taken away. Most people are pretty attractive in paradise. b. Exotic, adventuresome dates, not a care in the world, alcohol provided 24-7, no jobs, no real-world worries, etc.
- The guys don’t plan jack squat. Or pay for any of it.
- “I planned this and that for us today.” No you didn’t.
- “He took me to a castle.” No he didn’t. The producers did. And they took 12 other girls to a castle as well.
- It is love at warp speed. How much can you really get to know someone during that timeframe? A couple one-on-one dates, mostly group dates.
- Kaitlyn said on the last season “I’m pretty sure my husband is in this room.” Really? After a group date and talking to each of the 10 guys for a couple minutes and making out with each of them for a couple minutes more? You’re pretty sure your husband is there?!? What criteria are you using?
- The time frame pretty much assures that people are putting their “best foot forward.” Anyone can be pleasant and fun to be around for 15 minutes here and there. The surprising thing is that people show their true colors so quickly.
- It puts people in a situation of compromising to “get their man/woman.” They feel like they have to do “whatever it takes.” We see this at JMU. There is a scarcity mentality where good girls feel like they have to do things they never would to land/keep a guy.
What else do you see wrong with The Bachelor/Bachelorette? Leave a comment.